It’s taken me a whole three decades to come to the conclusion that fat, sidudla mafehlefehle are nothing but words. These words may describe the way I look but they do not define who I am.
Forcing wheelchair users to have to constantly look for assistance from strangers perpetuates the dangerous and false stereotype that using a wheelchair renders a person incapable of taking care of themselves. The notion that wheelchair users are charity cases requiring assistance from the society is untrue and is far from the reality.
My lengthy bachelorhood and living in Harare – which is a cultural melting pot – enabled me to date women from different tribes. I can’t say I found Karangas to be better kissers than Ndebeles. With the lights dimmed and Marvin Gaye CD rotating, Karanga, Korekore, Matebele and Zezuru lips possess the same texture and taste.
If you believe in your so called prophet, good for you. But before you tell me that he can “heal me”, I have a few questions…
“A couple of grade seven girls said to me oh my gosh, why aren’t you wearing a bra? You look so disgusting! I was so broken. It still gets me so emotional”
Years after I graduated from junior parliament, I still wonder how many more young women shy away from governance because the system is not friendly towards them. Defeated, they allow themselves to take the role of chess pawns…
Throughout the week I have had friends come to my inbox and even in person to talk about an acceptable look for a Christian. Seriously I did not know this was such a burning issue especially in Zimbabwe.
Living in a house across from ours was a girl called Sarah who was my age. Sarah was, in my eight year old eyes a very beautiful girl and it occurred to me at some stage that she should become my girlfriend.
Vivian was married for 14 years. Until she told her husband she is HIV positive. That was a turning point in her life.
My experience at the hardware store took me by surprise, as it reminded of how acceptable and normal it still is to some people, to conclude that a woman can or cannot do certain things. It might have been one man who thinks women should stick to their gender role of knitting, but my experience in the store confirmed a few things about being a woman.