The rims of her eyes looked swollen and red, like she had been crying. Her hair was chaotic, like she had just been out on a windy day. The multicoloured dress she wore – black, red, yellow, green, white – was speckled with what looked like soup stains. But beneath her harried exterior, I saw a beauty that overshadowed her evident predicament.
The men sit in the house waiting to be served while the women slave away all day – peeling, chopping, cooking, cleaning and minding the children. The men discuss important matters and call for more beer every once in a while…
If he slaps you, walk away. If he pushes you around, walk away. If he beats you up – even if it is just once – walk away. By staying, you enable him.
When I was about four, I witnessed something hauntingly gruesome that I can never erase from my memory even if I tried. My friends and I were playing by the small dust road overlooking our neighbours’ house. Right there, with my four year old eyes, I witnessed…
Living in a house across from ours was a girl called Sarah who was my age. Sarah was, in my eight year old eyes a very beautiful girl and it occurred to me at some stage that she should become my girlfriend.
Valentine’s month is the most tortuous 28 days on the calendar. The inane commercials, the red and black clad professional women, the bouquets of roses carried proudly from offices, more for exhibitionism than the need to take them home…
Vivian was married for 14 years. Until she told her husband she is HIV positive. That was a turning point in her life.
There are things we say because we are still young and inexperienced when it comes to life; cliché kind of statements. At parties, weddings, family reunions, or any such kinds of settings. Statements we grew up hearing adults say to certain people in certain situations. Such statements, when we grow, and learn a bit more about life, we must just abandon.
It seemed as though the area had been declared a zone for the exclusive use of lovers wanting to get physical with each other. Openly smooching, the young people seemed unaware that they were in a very public place.
We are living at a time where most survive hand to mouth and the prospect of saving for the next month, talk less for bride price is reserved for the highly principled, prayerful , economic and employed with benefits.